You may have thought about getting a dating coach in the past but wondered what the real benefit is. Is it really worth the cost? Why is it better than using a dating service where they find the guys for you?
There are several reasons why we recommend specifically a dating and relationship coach over other dating services. If you’re:
- Unclear on how to assess the men you date
- Lack of focus and consistent effort towards meeting someone
- Feeling unmotivated or unattractive
- Wanting to set life and relationship goals but unsure where to start
- History of bad relationships and heartbreak
Anyone struggling with any of the issues listed above (in addition to other issues not mentioned here) can benefit from working with a dating and realtionship coach. To learn exactly how, keep reading.
1. Gain clarity and direction
One of the greatest benefits of coaching is a greater sense of clarity and direction toward your relationship goals. You may know “what” your goal is but be unclear on exactly “how” you’ll reach it. You’ll work with your coach to map out a clear plan for reaching your goals so you know exactly what you need to do to succeed.
For example, if your goal is to meet a long-term life partner, it may be daunting to think about about how you’ll ever find the right person and know him/her when you see them. By working with a dating and relationship coach, you’ll map out your priorities so you have a clear plan and direction.
2. Work through negative thought patterns and limiting beliefs
Often the biggest thing holding us back from reaching our relationship goals is ourselves. Without realizing it, many of us hold negative thought patterns and limited beliefs that prevent us from reaching our full potential. This is where your coach comes in to help you overcome these thought patterns and replace them with new beliefs that are supportive of your success.
Your coach is there not only as your support system, advocate and cheerleader, but also to help guide you through mental roadblocks you may not have been aware of. We usually don’t realize when we hold limiting beliefs, which is why a coach can be a great sounding board for the way we think about ourselves and our goals. Getting an outsider’s viewpoint on our thought patterns and perceived obstacles is often all it takes to shift our perspective in a more positive direction.
3. Reach your goals on time
You might know that your goal is to start a family… one day. But will that be in the next six months? Or year? Or two years? Having a coach hold you accountable to finding and only committing to a partner that shares your vision is one of the best ways to ensure you reach your life goals when you want to.
Making the commitment to hire a coach is not a decision to be taken lightly, because once you’ve pulled the trigger, you’re expected to give your all. During your regular check-ins throughout the week you’ll be held accountable to the initial plan you created with your coach. Making consistent, steady progress is expected since you’ll be dedicating time and effort toward your relationship goals regularly each week.
Working with a coach also helps you to avoid periods of self-doubt that slow down your progress. Regular check-ins with your coach several times per week keeps your goals top of mind. We often get derailed by minor setbacks or when life gets busy. However your coach can work with you to help you prioritize everything happening in your life and keep your goals toward the top of your to-do list so you continue making progress.
4. Get better results
Consistent effort breeds success. You don’t successfully run a marathon by completing only half of your marathon training program. In order to get the best results with your goals, you need to apply consistent time, energy and effort.
Working with a coach keeps you accountable to several check-ins per week where you will give progress updates, assess potential partners you’ve met, work together on communication roadblocks, and make adjustments as necessary. In this way, your coach is not only helping you overcome roadblocks that derail your progress, but they’re also giving you the necessary discipline to only end up in the relationship you envisioned. With this consistency and accountability, you’ll stay true to yourself and will ultimately find better, healthier relationships.
5. Greater overall life satisfaction
When you’re achieving your goals, your life is fuller and more satisfying. Many people will tell you they “will find the right person someday,” however many suffer years of feeling lost or choosing the wrong relationships. Not because there is something inherently wrong with them, but often because they don’t have the right tools to do so.
A dating and relationship coach is a great tool. They help you:
- erase negative thought patterns and beliefs
- judge people and situations based on what is right and wrong for you
- apply consistent effort
- stay focused on long-term life goals
- gain clarity on what you want and your plan of action
With a coach by your side, you’ll have one of the most important tools you need to succeed and ultimately be on your way to living a happier, more fulfilling life.
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